How often do we meet people who are living “our” dream life…people who love to travel, talk motivational stuff, who know it all, or those who chose a not so regular life.? Well we all do, be it on instagram, or watching our favourite movie characters, listening to our favourite singers, we endlessly seek who we are not, or probably couldn’t become.
Now life teaches us to admire that while we continue to live within the perimeter of family, jobs, partners, children & not to forget the cities we are born in. We admire that patch of grass on the other side, because that fuels us to keep aspiring. We aspire a lot in the process & get overwhelmed and don’t manage to reach point B from where we are put, forget going on the other side of the grass. And that becomes our personality.
Aspirations are great and a Must- have in life. Because they result in what you get in life. If your aspirations stop you from wanting more then you will end up settling for less. But your less is someone’s more. So in life, teach your personality the idea behind soft skills. It could be you are a rising star in your industry, or a person everyone is looking up to, but the real question to ask yourself is – When you look up to your image in the mirror, are you really content?
While watching this movie, “Up in the Sky”, I was in love with George Clooney’s life – where he had to travel for work from one country to another, nearly all days in a month. There was no room for boredom. He travelled light, gave talks on how to pack light & had special access to hotels & airline check-ins just by the profile he was working for. Having said that, he was also unmarried, had nearly lost all connections with his siblings, had no base to call a home, apart from a 1 room apartment, just enough for him.
But then came a turning point where he realised – He is lonely!
Another, when he attended his sister’s wedding & was asked by the groom (who had a cold feet, on the wedding day), if he believed in the idea of marriage? And when your personality does not meet the criteria to answer such a question, you wonder – what would be the right answer? So did George in the movie.
But here came to rescue his soft skills – he had to answer this question, else his own sister would be left at the altar. So he surmised his motivational skills & asked the groom – “Can you recall any big moment of your life, where you were on cloud nine, but devoid of people.? “ The groom said no. Being alone, he said, might give you other joys, but in the big moments in life, you need people you love, not because they made those moments big, but because you can share those moments with them. So in life, the answers to difficult questions are rather simple. Even when they don’t align with your self.
The movie ends on a different note for him, but talking of a personality so rigid that he chose to be “Up in the Air” all his life, without any ground commitments, even then he chose to motivate another human to settle for marriage for he knows the grass is greener on the other side & not his. I realised in that moment that having a perspective on everything is very important, whether you have a personality for that or not. Your less is someone’s more!